Friday, November 11, 2005

Why match.com sucks

I friggin HATE match.com! So I go on there, I don't know why, because I'm obsessive, because I wonder when the last time Karaoke Boy logged in. It says 3 days! Whenever we went out, it always said "active within 24 hours" or "online now!" Ug. It sucks that you can even check that on there. Just makes for more obsessing, I think.

I think he met the love of his life last Thurs night. Would explain the change of plans, and the suddenly not calling. Not that it even matters, but still. I want to be the love of someone's life. *sigh* Grrrrrrrrrr.

55 Comments:

At 11/11/2005 4:51 AM, Blogger Andrew said...

Thanks for the message!

Just because I'm silent doesn't mean I'm not keeping an eye on you! I've just been so busy with work and doing cool things with my lovely girls. Also I resolved to spend more time off line when at home! Hence my blog is a bit out of date. Must do something about that.

If I was much younger, wasn't married and didn't live thousands of miles away - I'd volunteer to be the love of your life.

Who else? There must be loads of guys out there who read this blog. Step forward and put a smile on this lady's face!

A :)

 
At 11/11/2005 8:42 AM, Blogger Johnny said...

cant u just turn one of those gay men back to the good side?

 
At 11/11/2005 9:59 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Kristin,
don't worry!! You will meet the love of your life! I am also looking for mr. right, and have to agree with you, I don't like match.com too much either.
also, you must be very beautiful cause you're actress, so many many guys must like you.
ps. Andrew, will you be volunteer to be the love of my life too:)?

 
At 11/11/2005 11:46 AM, Blogger Betty on the Beach said...

Just speaking from Match.com experience. For the year that I did Match & eHarmony, I found that most of the guys had Dating ADD. Sadly, I came to find that in the end, it made me feel worse about myself than when I was dating the old fashioned way, if not for the totally gross guys that stalk you, then for the rare cool guy who can't seem to focus on or commit to just one woman. That's why I stopped online dating. Sadly, the good guys are in high demand and oftentimes they are juggling dates with numerous women. If Karaoke Boy is a cool as you say, he's probably one of those.

 
At 11/11/2005 2:15 PM, Anonymous Judy said...

Ugh......

Kristin: why is my life paralleling yours right now? I'm having somewhat of that same problem right now on www.salon.com. I had a decent amount of email replies, two dates, one AIM conversations, and a couple of email exchanges. One of the email exchanges was with a law student who looked really cute and sent great email messages. Mentioned he was going to be away for a day or two monitoring the VA governor's race. Well, he's been back and signed into his profile and definitely hasn't written me back.

So I'm feeling a little down about the online dating thing and have resolved to be less obsessive about it as well. I've got a kick-ass houseparty to go to this weekend where I have been promised tons of cute boys. I'm hoping face-to-face interaction won't be as much of a downer as online interaction seems to be.

By the way, Betty on the Beach, take comfort in the fact that you can actually use eHarmony. When I took their free online personality assessment, I was told I was not compatible with anyone in the DC area!

 
At 11/11/2005 2:43 PM, Blogger Kim said...

omg, i am at school right now, waiting to meet up w/my group (kill me) and i came across this website that apparently someone at this computer was checking out: http://sawyouatsinai.com/default.aspx
omg, the online dating scene is huge! i prefer the old fashioned way myself, but u never know..

 
At 11/11/2005 6:48 PM, Blogger Sky said...

This coming from a professional online dater, been there...am there now. Like you, I just want to be someone's love of their life and frankly the guys I have dated that I met online are confusing as hell. They talk a good game. They reel you in, tell you how much they like you, want to be with you, take care of you then when you return the sentiment...they throw you back! I have given up on the online dating and basically dating altogether. If I do date, I will do it the old fashioned way now.

 
At 11/11/2005 7:55 PM, Blogger NewYorkMoments said...

Match.com sucks for many, many reasons. so does lavalife.

 
At 11/12/2005 11:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

could it be that basically, men arent meant to be monogamous ? Its hard to make a biological argument that says the truely driven, Type A, 'warrior' wants to throw it in with only one woman.

And yet your female desires and notions reel in reading this, for you hope to have his complete devotion to only you and your kids.

So many of us men know this to be true, although we may truely and deeply love the women in our lives, eventually we find that the need for fresh passion arises, and we must act on it. Simply inescapable, at least for those men with the means to do something about it

 
At 11/13/2005 8:39 PM, Blogger sethro said...

Oh...its still good for some laughs and meeting the occasional interesting person. But for the most part, all I had met on Match were...um...erm...odd. At least one was a tiger in the sack ;)

 
At 11/14/2005 3:45 AM, Blogger Vincent said...

In response to the query on men and monogamy; yes, they can be. The biological argument may say that perpetuating your genes by sowing your seed as far and wide as possible is sound, but frankly, that doesn't cut it in this world of contraception and child support payments. Rationally, it make more sense to concentrate on one girl and then sticking around to ensure your genes have the best future possible. Besides, any guy who's willing to remain bound by biological imperative without thinking about what he wants from life...

Personally, I can only focus on one girl at a time and I've always been of the mind if you find something that's absolutely right, why would you be interested in anything else?

And these dating sites, they're just ilke normal dating, but with the paranoia and neuroticism amped up to unhealthy levels. Sure, it's great when things go well, but as soon as one of your messages gets ignored and you know the recipient's been on, well, that's why in the dating tips sections on all these websites there's one called '1001 horrible, self-flagellating explanations for why guy/gal X is purposely ignoring you'.

 
At 11/14/2005 9:03 AM, Blogger ThreeCharlie said...

Sounds like you need a break from the city.

 
At 11/24/2007 9:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've also had confusing signals from guys online. The weird thing is that these guys are not even the "bar hopping types"- they are pretty average and mellow when it comes to that stuff, as far as I can tell by their lifestyles. And yet they too tend to give conflicting signals online, as well as in real-life. Personally, I don't think American men these days appreciate women enough; that's why they act non-committal, let girls pay their own way, etc.

I know from stories of people living overseas that the men in Australia, the U.K, Spain, etc. treat women like ladies and really appreciate them, regardless of if they have their own career, are thin, etc. I am those things and still have trouble.
the online dating scene only makes what is already there to come out in the forefront quicker, for better or worse.

 
At 6/09/2008 11:32 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can't stand match.com
I created a profile there, and I get an email saying that it wasn't approved because in one od the sections I used words that may offend someone.
All I said there is that I don't like fast food places, because sometimes I doubt how clean they are. How is that offensive?
Some guys on that site openly tell that they need a one night stand, as a girl I would find that more offensive!
I removed my profile the same day.
I don't know what to try for online dating...

 
At 7/30/2008 1:29 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

OK I am going to rant about match.com here. I am a single professional woman who doesn't have the time to go man-hunting in bars on the week-ends. Besides, has anyone ever met a great guy that way? So I signed up for match.com (against my friends' advice BTW) to see what would happen.

I am only about 2 months into this and already this is a BIG mistake. If you want to have your self-esteem crushed, join this evil site. Haha - no seriously.

I consider myself attractive and well-educated, and what I've found is that I've done alot of kissing *** with virtually no results. The only guys that have emailed me are in their 40s or 50s - no joke.

As a result, I took the initiative to e-mail guys in my search listings. I do get some responses, but when I write them back, silence. This has happened with virtually every guy on this site.

Which leads me to the conclusion - go on match.com if your ego is excessively high and needs to be brought down on a notch...or if you have $30 to waste and nothing else to do with your time. Good luck.

 
At 8/31/2008 11:16 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Match.com is a joke. Not that I have a big ego but I am a pretty good catch; I am good looking, make good money and I had a really exciting profile. Well, after one month, I had only two email communications between one woman from Korea who spoke little English and a local who wasn't even yet divorced. Oh, plenty of women looked at my profile and I emailed/winked at plenty, but in the end I realized this site is fairly dead. To all the men out there wanting to meet women: put yourself out in public. Volunteer, hang out and get involved in real life activities instead of putting any hope into finding a soulmate online. Web-based dating is a sham and it's deader than roadkill and even smells worse.

 
At 9/17/2008 6:18 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree Match sucks. No other way to put it. I don’t argue that initially there is an interest or desire to find someone however a seemingly strange phenomenon occurs. Men seem to become even more particular and women seem to become even more particular than men. Were taking about people that haven’t had a Date in years and all of a sudden their picky. It’s like for women who haven’t had a second look suddenly have numerous emails and believe they have transformed into a Goddess overnight. Consequentially they believe they can somehow determine who is a match by a few words and a photo. If only it was that easy. Men don’t receive numerous emails however they raise there standards through the roof and pick and choose options like they are choosing components to build a computer. Age, height, weight, hair, color, race. Best body feature is a favorite and of course must be ten to twenty years younger . Women are guilty of same. What I am trying to say is that you cannot find someone special without actually meeting people face to face. This is the whole purpose of Dating Sites. Merely to get people to meet face to face. It is impossible to screen out everything and decide this is the one and only. I guarantee the one and only person will surprise you. Lots of time it is almost the opposite of what you envisioned. Lastly I believe most people on these sites have a phobia about intimate relationships. It makes them feel good merely by posting a profile.

 
At 9/25/2008 8:50 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I found this site by googlling "match.com sux". And wow, my consensus is the same as everyone else's. I consider myself an attractive and smart woman. After moving back to my hometown after being gone for 10 years I decided to give it a try. Met a couple of guys on dates and thought it went well. Well, all in my life I have always gotten a phone call for a second date. These guys NEVER called me back. I don't even know why! I think like everyone said - they are addicted to dating new people every week and/or they are too picky. These guys weren't even anything to write home about. I am over online dating and looking forward to meeting guys in the "real world" from now on.

 
At 2/28/2009 8:23 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, if at first you fail, then lower your standards...

Just kidding. I met my wife & the love of my life on match.com, but it took time. Don't expect the site to work miracles - it's just like meeting people anywhere else in real life, you just go through the motions much faster.

If you expect it to be a place to network and meet single people with similar interests more quickly than you would elsewhere, it's great.

If you expect it to fix your broken life, well, it does suck, but so does everything else that you expect to be a quick fix.

Proceed with caution and give it time.

 
At 3/20/2009 8:40 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i found this site by googling why match.com sucks. i am so glad to have found it too because i was feeling pretty bad and i feel a lot better now. i hid all my contact info so i won't be receiving
There is some temptation on my part to question the person who confused and disappointed me and just make him annoyed if nothing else just because i'm bored.

 
At 4/01/2009 1:54 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

same thing here--found the site by googling "match.com" sucks. i am stuck on it for 6 months...anyway, in honor of april fool's day, i just put an incrdibly snarky message up there.

yup, i've stalked people on match. yup, i've been stalked. and i have match ADD, and so do all the guys. and yes, yes, yes, i now feel way worse about myself than i did before. and hell, i thought law school did enough of a bang up job on my ego.

 
At 4/05/2009 7:49 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Match.com offers a pool of regular guys, most of whom want to date women 20 years younger who look like Giselle's better looking sister if that exists... If you in any way don't resemble a supermodel, actually have an opinion on anything or are smarter than your date, you will be quickly rejected. Hurrah for the big-boobed, "smokin' hot", stupid girls who can't hold a conversation - they will continue to do well in and outside of match.com. So, like an earlier post says, unless you have an overactive ego, don't mind non-stop rejection and a string of bad first dates, its a great way to have your confidence kicked nine ways to Tuesday. My profile now has a new status: removed.

 
At 4/23/2009 10:56 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Match SUCKS! I am on my free six months and have dated every guy out there. They are all the same. Where are the 20,000 new members everyday? The men are stupid, ugly, married and make no money!
Who wants them? They are the rejects that no one else wants. That is why they are on Match. It is extremely disappointing to look at the poor offerings in New England. I can not hit the delete button fast enough!

 
At 6/11/2009 3:35 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree, I just got out of a 5-year relationship, thought I'd give this a try to meet a quality person. When I go out girls flirt with me all the time and I can usually get numbers, but the girls want to be club girls not relationship girls so I try match. i swear like 20% don't ever read a message, 10% arent real profiles, 68% read the message and don't respond at all, and 2% may reply and it could lead to an awkward phone call. So glad I spent $120 for 6 month membership. I'm going to the bar saturday! Who's with me! Singles unite!

 
At 7/06/2009 2:25 AM, Blogger Jonny The Angel said...

Ever wonder why thalf of those chicks aren't writing back? Two reasons: First, reasonably hot girls are bombarded by messages. Second, even after a user's membership expires, they still serve those expired users into your search results. That means you're searching through accounts that ARE CANCELLED. You have no idea who's active versus canceled because they don't tell you. So, users write to expired accounts and then the expired user account gets a match.com email that says "Hey someone wrote to you. Resubscribe and then you can read your message!" THAT, my friends, is a total scam. TOTAL SCAM!!

 
At 9/07/2009 2:40 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Match.com sucks donkey nuts. There are 20,000 new members everyday, because 25,000 are leaving everyday. What they dont tell you is how many of those 20,000 per day are SUBSCRIBERS. Answer: probably a couple of hundred. The rest are tire kickers and soon become one of the 25,000 leaving every day.

 
At 9/13/2009 12:40 AM, Blogger WingMan said...

Wow you guys are doing better than me, after sending out so many emails, so many hours searching and altering my profile, I've gotten nothing. Match.com does suck it seems for a lot of guys and some girls too.

Ex. I noticed many are looking for tall guys and a lot are looking for white. I am neither of these. Sucks for me right? It is what it is. These dating sites just aren't for everyone.

 
At 9/16/2009 11:41 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

match really does blow monkey ass. I have been on the site now for 1 month. Results:
talked to 2 women on the phone. 1 of those sent me an email right before we were supposed to meet saying she was seeing someone else. Another claims to want to meet, but I have called twice to schedule at a time she said was good with no answer. another one, was emailing - then she sent me a response obviously meant for someone else. So, 30 days, a lot of effort and anguish, haven't met anyone, and now no prospects at all. By the way, I live in a major metropolitan area. These sites absolutely crush your self esteem! I SWORE I would not join another after Yahoo personals, eharmony (YUCKYUCK) and plenty of fish. I was fooled into thinking match was different - WRONG!!! Anyone want 5 months of my subscription?

 
At 9/22/2009 2:43 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank god for this thread. Match.com is a harsh mistress. I met a girl I really liked and we dated for 5 months. I should have known she was going to turn into a super bitch when she was mean to the waiters (I have to say I definitely believe that rule now).

I am glad to see women on here who are also like "why the hell are men so flakey" because that has been my exact experience with women...99% no response to emails, a couple conversations lasting no more than two emails and then a date or two that always turns out to be significantly overweight except for the one girl.

I am not unattractive, I am in excellent physical shape with a great career...I meet a ton of women in person (but never ones I want to date). It pains me to get such a low response rate. Total self esteem crusher.

 
At 9/24/2009 10:57 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm the same poster that posted on 9/16...After getting ZERO response to ANY messages I sent, I decided to "let them come to me" - result: a few messages from people WAY WAY far away (I have put distance within 20 miles)..Places like California, Hawaii, etc (I'm in Texas). I got a couple locally that were "interested" but after being strung long on email/phone for over a month, it's obvious they are not serious meeting me - so why did they say they were "interested". THIS IS THE BIGGEST PIECE OF SHIT EVER. I assume there are many many times more men than women on the site, and the women just don't give a damn.

 
At 9/27/2009 9:09 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Match does suck. I see 50 year old woamen looking for men 35-40? WTF. And vice versa. I think everyone is looking for Brad Pitt or Angelina, they are not on there. Then you get stupid winks from 3,000 miles away, you would think Match.com would be able to monitor this. I must admit I have been on a few dates through this but never a 2nd. I consider myself to be a very good looking man, very fit and likable. "f" Match

 
At 10/26/2009 12:28 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yup Match sucks. I dunno it was cool at first. I went out on a lot of dates and found two really cool guys. But now I am left with a guy who I went on one date with who said he had a great time but is really "busy" right now. Well he isn't too busy to be constantly logged into match. Yup...it can be a blow on the ego and eharmony is better than that you can't see when people log on. It brews obbessive behavior. Its just dumb. Not saying that I will never return but I am definitely relieved that my 6 months is almost over. My profile is set to private. I read on plenty of fish that these dating companies have an incentive to keep people single. All the while making some of us feel like something is wrong with us. But at the end of day it always sucks when someone you love or some one you like doesn't feel the same way. Just get hot ladies its the best revenge ;)

 
At 11/10/2009 10:23 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

What a bunch of annoying cunts.

 
At 12/03/2009 6:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I joined to get back in the game after a breakup. I went on several dates. The first girl had a lazy eye. I am not superficial, but that is not my match. Literally every girl I went out with, except two, was completely uninteresting and just left me wanting to get out of there. The two that were interesting claimed to be "about average" in their profiles, but were not. It's not like I'm super picky, just every girl I met was worse that people I just meet normally. I think it is because people who are trying to hide something go on match, and I was just fishing in a terrible pond. So, I'm back to reading books and hanging with real friends and having a fulfulling life, not wasting my time with that garbage.

 
At 2/15/2010 8:25 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mach.com Sucks!!!!! Big time!!!! I got robbed twice. 1) They refused to reimburse my money. 2) They charged me extra $72 two months after I have canceled my membership causing my bank to charge me $37. If you ever see a site called "match.com/sucks", I created it.

 
At 9/06/2010 9:30 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Great posted comments. Thank you for sharing very similar experiences I had while on Match.com. Ladies, I've had more ass than a toilet seat and I can say Match.com is dating's version of waterboarding; you will not like the feeling of it. Guys, crickets should be Match.com's theme music because that is the only thing you're going to hear when you post your profile and send out hundreds of messages. Shame on women who join Match and then turn into Simon Cowell with a vagina. Shame on men who are just a bunch of douche bags. No one is repsonsible for their actions anymore; Match.com is perfect example of how our culture has insulated itself from the collateral damage of avoiding face-to-face interaction. Match.com will not kill you, but it's going to leave you scarred for life. There's got to be a class-action lawsuit brewing against Match.com; we just need a group of pissed off attorneys to file the paperwork.

 
At 10/19/2010 10:31 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I go to match to see who's viewed me. Some of them are girls I wrote. But then I realize, "wait a minute, they didn't write me back, wtf"? Frustrated as usual I google "match.com sucks" and here I am. Dudes and dudettes, it is true: if you would like your self-esteem kicked in the junk, go on match.com. I am a good looking, smart guy with a well paying job. I see what can only be described as "a$$hole types" with nice women all the time. I don't have the luxury of going out and meeting new people, and I work with a lot of old men. Here is the thing: I have a 5 year old daughter. Oh yeah, I know! Red flag!! I can hear the gasps of horror now. I was never married, it was a "surprise". I gave up what I wanted to do to be a good dad, because it's the right thing to do, I wanted to, and I wouldn't change anything.
But come on, what the hell is wrong with people these days. I am in my mid-30s. Chances are people are going to have a child or two by this time, you'd think the proven responsibility would be a plus. Nope. I even had one girl call me up 2 hours before a date and cancel it because she had just read my whole profile and realized I had a child. Unbelievable. Once I do actually meet them, I get interviewed so they can try to figure out what MUST be wrong with me (or to find something to "fix") and they get a free dinner. Girls on there just come across as extremely picky, or are just simply serial daters; they like to get lots of mail and attention to make them feel better. Guys, save your time and energy. I can be ignored by women easy enough for free.

 
At 11/21/2010 12:03 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Guys on Match.com are really messed-up not worth $19.95 I should have spent my money on a wonder mop would have gotten more bang for my bucks. A large majority of the males wanted to be treated like the female in a relationship. The men of Match.com have NO real idea of what it takes to be a man. My reply to Match.com and it's false advertising is best said by artist Cee Lo Green's "Forget You"...

 
At 2/27/2011 1:39 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm a guy. My profile picture is good, I was lucky. Women like it. Now my experience. The women are rude, e.g. they ask me a zillion questions and then no reply. Some call and ask questions. One said "I need your number so I can interview you." WTF? I met her in person and she was 1. old 2. fat 3. ate like a locust at dinner. The women on match are demanding on finding a rich, kind, understanding, Brad Pitt who wants to save their financial life and maybe their kid too. What are women with kids thinking? NO man is gonna take care of another's kid(s) no matter how hot the mom is. I have met the craziest, rudest, fattest, and most clueless women on match. I have met a couple nice women, too bad nothing happened with them. Oh well, back to the drawing board.

 
At 7/31/2011 6:13 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is it possible that someone has not been on the site in 6 months but their profile says active within 5 days?

 
At 8/29/2011 11:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Like other men have stated, I've taken the time to search out profiles I liked and write good emails (not a "cut & paste" or some corny one-liner) only to have such a small reply percentage. Let's see... if I email 20 girls, I might get 2 responses. Then I gotta assume she's talking to five other guys at the same time. Maybe at that point I'll get a date and hopefully pass the interview process! I guess if you're a girl, that translates into a lot of free meals! I've felt a lot more confident approaching girls at bars, in social gatherings, and at the gym.

I think women should be proactive. Stop complaining about the bad emails you get and search out the guy you really want. Be realistic. Don't shun a guy because he's 5'10 and not 5'11. And the traveling! My favorite. Every girl has been to eight foreign countries and wants to see five more in the next three years. I think that means you need a guy to help you pay down your debt or finance your trips... sugardaddy!

 
At 3/06/2012 5:29 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I realize this is a really old blog, but I've just seen it and read all the comments. Match.com and similar sites aren't meant for people who are actually looking for something long-term. Guys online are addicted to dating, they are serial daters and they will not give up this addiction for one woman, no matter how good things could be with her. Been there, done that; just like another commenter said. He told me I was special, he wanted to be with me, all those things. When I finally showed some interest he seemed to lose his gradually. I have since found out that he's got a profile on pretty much every dating site there is. He is online constantly. I just feel sorry for the women who are going to fall for him - one woman is never going to be enough for him.

 
At 4/22/2012 8:33 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Anyone who has been on Match will know just how true this blogs description of Match has been. I wont go as far as to agree that all are serial daters, I am not. Everyone I met was looking for in me all the things they loved about the guy that just dumped them. I found the women picky and trying to find in someone new what they had with someone else. MOVE ON LADIES! That is why you are on Match.

 
At 4/29/2012 5:20 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

God Im glad Im not the only one !! I joined about 2 months ago (big mistake...thats why Im writing this). I spent a great deal of time writing a truthful and sincere profile , took some nice pics of myself and posted...yup you guessed it , I had 60 some profile views but no e-mails , no winks , nothing notta !! Ok so I sent out quite a few e-mails to some of the ladies that I thought would be a fair match for me...mind you Im average..height...looks...income, yes nothing special about me really , but I am honest and Im a hard worker , dont drink or smoke....you get the idea...just an all round decent guy. Well yup ...no responses to any e-mails sent at all. Im glad I pissed away $119.94 for nothing.

 
At 6/20/2012 1:30 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

HOW ONLINE DATING WORKS:
1) you are a 10
2) b/c ur a 10, everyone on site wants you
3)b/c of 2), you have multiple dates with hot women and get lots of sex
4) b/c of 2), u have no need to settle for any 1 women
5) b/c ur a 10 and feign interest in all hot women ( even loser women that have no education, a kid, etc, but are HOT but when combined with personality, etc. are probably 7's) you keep many 7's 8's 9's from even looking at men that are also 7's 8's 9's b/c they think they have a chance with me (a 10).
6) since ur a 10 and so many hot women want you, you become overloaded by the amount of easy sex and become addicted to it b/c its so easy that you completly let a chance at a real relationship fly by
7) GUYS if you are not White, Tall, handsome, Ivy educated, and financially successful (10 like me) and your a guy, your wasting your time no women will respond to you as long as they THINK they have a CHANCE with me (even though they don't)
8) As a 10 Match.com is great. When I want smoking hot sex I dial up a 9 (by being less then me they are willing to exchange sex for a change at getting me for marriage). If I want someone that's so-so hot, but will give me great head on demand, cook me dinner, and do my laundry, I dial up an 8 or 7. I usually do this on laundry days. If I blow all my millions of dollars gambling that weekend and need a sugar mama to tide me over till my next quarterly earnings I dial up a 40 yr old has been MILF to pay my way till im up on my feet again and tell people she is my dad's new 'young' stepmother

Serisouly, as a '10,' online dating has changed my world for the MUCH easier.

If your not a 10, why did you think online dating would make you one?

 
At 5/12/2013 4:08 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so glad I'm not alone in my disgust with match.com. I am in my late 40's and told pretty much every day that I look like I'm in my mid thirties. I have an advanced degree and great job.

The guy who posted about being a 10 and using 7,8, and 9 women bummed me out. I'm pretty sure he was kidding but still. I think I'm somewhere between 7 and 8. I mostly get emails from 60 yr olds or 40 somethings who look 60 or 70. I swallowed my pride and emailed some guys. A lot of times I hear nothing.

Match kills your self esteem. If you didn't have a whole lot to begin with .. well.. then ..forget it. Every guy on there claims to be compassionate, romantic, happy most of the time etc. You wonder why they got divorced ? Being so wonderful and all.

I have never been married which calls up another potential freak flag flying for me. I'm quite normal as it turns out. A little naive but if you asked people to describe me the first word out of their mouth would probably be caring. So, I'm a decent person, who doesn't look 1/2 bad and I am having a heck of a time trying to find another decent, caring, not 1/2 bad looking person to hang out with. I tried OK cupid until they asked me 500 questions and they became very intimate and I said F that.

Any suggestions for other sites ? I have the musical tastes of someone in the their 30's or 40's.

What is one to do ?

 
At 7/03/2013 10:17 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Match is a nightmare. I'm already sick and tired of it. I have three more months of this crap. Seriously, guys with no jobs, no cars, no nothing. Losers! And, the married men who choose not to post their image but are hoping to get a quickie. And speaking of which, it's a meat market. The whole point is that I don't have to deal with that environment but what I learned is that it's apparently inevitable.

 
At 7/03/2013 10:20 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Save yourself the money and the inevitable heartache and go get a date in the bar or club - yes, the meat market because there is no difference unfortunately.

 
At 7/20/2013 10:29 AM, Anonymous Paul said...

I've been on Match for a while and think its a joke. I'm a good looking guy with a home, car, career, and financial/investment success. I email so many women who never get back. I question whether most women are paid subscribers or real at all. I don't expect to hear back from everyone but I feel I have enough to offer that some should at least be intrigued. So to all you women out there serious about meeting men, answer good guys back even if its a "no but thanks".

 
At 7/25/2013 12:57 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just canceled a one year membership to match.com after two weeks. From day one, I would receive annoying popup instant messages from bots, the same one, even after blocking! I reported it and it did not stop for a week. I received multiple messages from fake profiles too. These are people paid to keep people online and for the site to earn more profit! I even gave my number to one and she texted me what was an obviouc mass text to a bunch of guys, as it made no sense to my question, in text. These profiles also show up later as unavailable. Do not use this site! They have fake profiles all over them! If you must, use Plenty Of Fish, even though that is a horrible site. Meet someone in real life is the best bet or you will be exposed to a never ending pit fall of entitled females with insane expectations that they do not come close to, with kids, divorced, obese, and damaged!

 
At 9/14/2013 11:42 AM, Anonymous Donna conners said...

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At 9/21/2013 12:14 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMG, I am so relieved that I am not the only one so unhappy with online dating. I thought match would be a good way to "meet" a lot of different people in a short amount of time. I don't typically go to bars (and would never go alone), I work a lot and have a busy life - so how else (I justified) will I be able to meet eligible men? The running theme through many of your comments is that match will ruin your self-esteem. SOOOOOO true! I've met (and dated) a couple of really cool guys. But the rollercoaster of emotions this whole process has caused is just not worth it. Of course, dating of any kind comes with its fair share of risks. But ONLINE dating takes it to an unbearably uncomfortable level. The high of getting "noticed" with a wink or email and request to meet - to the low of feeling rejected and ignored when they suddenly fall of the face of the earth....it's just too much for me. I feel like I handed my power right over to match, and I'm taking it back.....right now!! And one guy I saw for several months eventually told me he can't see us going "to the next level," but he wanted me to remain in his life as a "significant" person....WTH?? I really have tried to switch over to the friend zone with him, but living with a pit in my stomach knowing he's seeing other people and "online now" so much has been devastating, because I really, really like him. I really don't think I can ever consider online dating again. If there's someone out there for me, I just have to trust that I will find him outside of the online dating world.

 
At 12/30/2013 6:39 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

If anyone reads this, then good. One reason why men don't date or marry many women is because they are either not serious about dating/sex or they don't find you attractive. I am 331 years old and tired of not having a long relationship with a man who would let me have his babies and marry me.

A lot of men prefer thin women and blond.redhaired women (i have nice brown hair and i cannot dye it, because i am afraid it would fall out like my mom's who dyed her hair way too many times and way too often!)

Men like women who wear makeup (i don't like it, because i have sensitive skin). They also like big breasts (mine are small, it may be due to my hrmonal problems, which i found out is caused by pcos/high insauline/testosteraone, but i don't look or act like Vera demilo lol, i am not that mannish). Men don't know nor care nor understand reaosns why women look the way they do. Mosy mena re immature and undereducated
Ecen men with high college degrees can be stupid. Degrees just are away of telling people that they have studied a lot and qualify for certain jobs

Some of the things i listed are similiar to reasons why i don't date or feel attracted to some men. Too many uneducated lazy ugly overweight balf creepy stupid men on the web I am trying hard to get married, but the men i usually wind up with have psychological issues that makes them hard to marry. I also keep attracting men who hate/don't want biological babies.

The men who hate kids/babies, some are awesome men, but they have serius mental problems that make them psycotic enough to hate kids even thoguh they'd be good fathers and their kids would turn out to be highly gifted and smart and beautiful.

I wish i could attract and meet a smart wonderful sexy attractive (skinny, handsome) man who would love me for who i am and not how i look.:-(

 
At 12/30/2013 6:43 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oops i am not 331, i am 31 yo lol.

Seriously, you should find a man who is better than the man who left you. I hate the idea of people having lots of exsexual partners, but some men are just mental cases or they would be married and have biological children. Men want the ideal women even though no woman is perfect. Its the truth and its blunt, sorry, but its fact

 
At 12/30/2013 6:45 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

A lot of men are cheap enough not to pay for Match.com and, like i said, most men are shallow and many have mental issues that make it hard for them to marry and have children.

 

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